Dr. Peggy DeLong

HEAL: A transformative 5-week program with Dr. Peggy DeLong

Heal your heart and begin to live with joy again.

I’m so sorry you’re hurting, and it’s wonderful that you’re here. I want you to know that is possible to feel better, even when you’re grieving.

It can feel like you’ll never be happy again. Oh sure, you “know” you will, and you sort of believe that, but honestly? It can feel really hard. And it’s not your fault that it feels this way.

I’ve been there myself.

I know you’re hurting. I know you’re wondering how the world can go on when you’re in so much pain.

I know there are days it’s hard to get out of bed.

I know you’re thinking that you’ll never be happy again.

I know you’re thinking life’s so unfair, and right now, it is. Grief is hard. 

In my 23 years as a psychologist, I’ve often heard people who are grieving say:

• My grief is so overwhelming. It’s hard to imagine a day that I will ever feel better.
• All day long, my sadness brings me down. I feel nothing for the things that used to bring me joy. What’s wrong with me?
• My loved one who died must be disappointed in me that I can’t even get out of bed. 
• My husband just died. How can life possibly ever be good again?  How will I go on without him? How will I ever experience joy again? Do I even want to?
• I feel like crap. Who would even want to be around me? But I crave company. I feel so lonely.
• I can’t even sleep to escape my grief! Then I wake up tired and feel even worse.

I hear you. I understand you. I’ve been there. And I can help.

I discovered what heals grief. I didn’t want to, but I had to.

My vibrant fiance was battling cancer. There came a time when the doctors said that there was nothing left that they could do for him, and that he was going to die.  

So for the last 42 days of his life at the hospital, I celebrated his life with him, all while fearing and preparing for his death.

I never knew which doctors were going to come by. I didn't know if he would be able to open his eyes and look at me that day. I didn't know if he’d be able to speak my name that day. I didn't know if he was going to die that day.

I never knew what condition he’d be in, day by day, as I sat next to him and slept next to him in the hospital recliner, night by night.

In those anxiety-provoking days that were filled with so much unpredictability and uncertainty, I was able to find comfort in the one thing that was consistently predictable …

A cup of hazelnut coffee.  

I could stretch my legs and walk down the seven flights of stairs to the café to purchase my cup of coffee, or ask someone to get it for me when he did not want me to leave his side. The aroma filled his hospital room and made it feel less sterile and more like home. I wrapped my hands around the cup and the warmth comforted me.  

That was 31 years ago

Now I understand what my 26 year old self did not understand…

I felt better with that cup of hazelnut coffee because I was practicing gratitude.  

I was so grateful for that cup of coffee during my very worst of days. It was all I had. When the love of my life was dying, and my dreams for the future dying with him, I was able to find comfort through gratitude for a simple cup of hazelnut coffee.

This is so simple, yet so powerful, and I want to share it with you.

Grateful was the last thing I imagined I’d feel during that time.

It was so odd when I found myself feeling grateful for the simplest of things.

It completely changed my perspective, and it completely changed my life.

And now I’m ready to help you change yours too, with the compassionate program, HEAL. 

In this program, I teach you the skills you need to get through your grief. And I’ll even help you get through it without feeling awful all the time.

The program is designed for 5 weeks, but you may take as long as you like. The material is yours to keep.

This program includes 35 daily short video lessons of techniques to help you both feel and transform your grief. Each lesson comes with a downloadable sheet to help you put the idea into healing action.

Here’s what I’ve learned in my 23 years as a psychologist, meeting 1:1 with over 4,000 people:

• People are suffering, and they need help.
• People are feeling more lonely and more disconnected than ever.
• Grief is everywhere, and most don’t even know they’re grieving. They just think something’s wrong with them, and they judge themselves for it.
• Everyone is struggling in one way or another, and everyone is trying to hide it.
• Numbing yourself to emotional pain leads to numbing yourself to the fulness of joy.
• Many people were taught or believe that the way to deal with grief is to ignore it.
• You cannot heal what you don’t feel.
• Methods of positive psychology are only as powerful to the extent that you also allow yourself to feel your emotional pain.

This is why I’ve designed HEAL for you. Ignoring your pain doesn’t make it go away. It’s important to give yourself time and space to grieve, while also having methods to feel better, so you don’t stay stuck in that grief all day long.

I know that what I teach you in HEAL works. And I know that that these methods improve emotional well-being. 

The scientist-psychologist in me just LOVES that the content in HEAL is backed by research. LOTS of research. And I’ll share that with you, too.

It’s time to learn about the healing power of these methods and apply them to your life and your grief journey.

You can decrease your symptoms of depression and anxiety that come with grief.

You can stop your negative thoughts from spinning out of control.

You can stop worrying about whether or not life is ever going to get better.

And the great part – it is SIMPLE, and it is FEELS GOOD while you’re doing it.

I’ll teach you what you need to know, to move through your grief.

Here is what some of my past students have said:

• “I haven’t stopped talking about what we learned with you to friends and family. Thank you, Peggy!!"
• "It was most enjoyable. I needed something positive and this was it!"
• "Peggy touched my heart, which encouraged me."
• "Thanks for the wonderful information! I’m so inspired! I can’t wait to get started in my own life."
• " Peggy really is amazing, and the expressions were so heartfelt."
•  “Peggy DeLong is inspiring and informative at the same time. In a word, she’s: brilliant.”
• “I appreciate your honesty and openness. It helped me to know that you know.”
• “I loved your openness and warmth.”
• "You have always provided me with such meaningful advice, have been a grounding and comforting relationship for me and I want you to know how important you are to me!"
• "Thank you for a wonderful workshop yesterday. I felt seen and heard, and surprisingly less anxious about the future."

Stop waiting to heal your grief. Stop waiting to feel joy.

There is a way to experience joy, even on your crappiest of days. 

I know.  I lived it.  I’ve researched it.

I have helped hundreds of people experience more joy,

less depression, and less anxiety.

Even while you’re grieving. This may be when you need it the most.

I have taken out all of the guess work for you, and I will provide you with a step-by-step guide that not only feels good in the moment, but will have long-lasting benefits.

You cannot heal what you do not feel.  I will help you feel and address the pain in your life so that you can begin to heal and feel better.

MEET YOUR GUIDE FOR HEAL, THE GRATITUDE PSYCHOLOGIST

I’m a New Jersey native who discovered the power of gratitude the hard way.  At a time in my life when I was suffering so much, and watching the man I loved suffer and die, I learned the power of gratitude. And if losing my fiancé to cancer wasn’t enough, my father died unexpectedly from a sudden heart attack just six weeks later at a time when I needed him the most. I learned to face my grief head on, and I learned what methods help to heal grief.

And I enjoy sharing these methods with others.

So… I’ve devoted the past decade of my professional life to spreading knowledge about the healing grief and positive psychology. I’ve done that through:

• 100+ workshops and presentations, reaching thousands of people
• The sale of my bestselling bracelet, The Gratitude Heals Bracelet, sold through my website and found in 20 stores around the country, with thousands of bracelets sold
• Individual, private psychotherapy in my private practice in psychology
• The publication of my books: 1) I Can See Clearly Now: A Memoir about Love, Grief, and Gratitude, 2) Gratitude Journal, and 3) Feeling Good: 35 Proven Ways to Happiness, Even During Tough Times
• Articles published in “The Independent Practitioner” (a journal for psychologists in independent practice), The New Jersey Psychological Association on-line newsletter, Open to Hope (an online grief resource) and POWDER: The Skier’s Magazine (a national magazine for ski-lovers), and featured in The Wall Street Journal, The Mindfulness Journal Magazine, Authority Magazine, My Fitness Pal Blog, Theravive, and New Jersey Family Magazine.
• World Gratitude Summit with New York Times Best Selling Authors Jack Canfield and Hal Elrod, Stress and Burnout Summit, and Happiness Summit
• Media appearances, including Wake Up with Marci, and Talking Live with Dr. Robi
• Leading a support group for widows and grief workshops
• Dozens of podcast guesting https://drpeggydelong.com/speaking/#podcasts