Dr. Peggy DeLong

Positivity

A positive mindset is essential for mental health and well-being, as our thoughts influence our feelings and actions. While positive thinkers can generate positive thoughts, many overlook and ignore their negative thoughts and painful emotions. This is known as “toxic positivity,” and is not healthy. Fostering a healthy positive mindset involves four components: 1) addressing and challenging negative thoughts, 2) cultivating positive thinking, 3) feeling and processing painful emotions, and 4) developing personalized strategies for generating positive moods.

Exercise

The mind and body are interconnected, making exercise vital for well-being. Physical activity alleviates symptoms of depression and anxiety and helps process painful emotions. However, many dismiss the power of simple movements, believing exercise must be intense to be effective. Research shows that even basic activities like walking and stretching significantly enhance mental health, particularly when done in nature, such as near water or trees.

Achievement

Setting and working toward goals provides meaning and purpose, direction and fulfilment. However, high-achievers can easily develop an unhealthy relationship with achieving. Achievements need not be grand. In fact, there’s more opportunity for feeling good when goals are intentionally kept simple, and when “smaller” goals are acknowledged and celebrated. Focusing on the smaller goals along the way also helps to enjoy the journey, rather than just the outcome, leading to more happiness in life. High-achievers are also happiest when achievement is not tied to self-worth.

Connection

The quality of our relationships is the strongest predictor of happiness. Cultivating relationships takes intention, yet many neglect this aspect of life, leading to loneliness. In an era where technology facilitates connections, people often feel more isolated. Nurturing existing relationships and making new ones doesn't require extensive time or energy; it simply demands intentionality in every interaction.

Empathy

Empathy toward others begins with self-understanding and self-compassion. Without self-compassion, we struggle to support others genuinely. By caring for ourselves first, we become more fulfilled and capable of giving authentically to others. Prioritizing self-care enhances our ability to connect with and support those around us.